01 14 2011_Emily McKenna
A College Long-Distance Relationship
A large display of red roses sat on the common’s desk as she handed the clerk her ID card and waited for him to return with her package.
It was a beautiful crystal vase filled with a dozen roses. Large, green fern leaves filled in the gaps between the roses creating an extravagantly large bouquet.
Jessica Isenberg giggles as she recalls thinking, “Aw, whoever’s boyfriend sent that really loves them.”
Her cheeks pinked as she added, “And then they gave them to me.” Jessica had just surprised her boyfriend for Valentines Day so the flowers were more than unexpected.
Jessica Isenberg and Alex Falcon met a in the summer of 2009 working as wait staff at Welling Assisted Living Community, in Downingtown Pennsylvania. They embarked on a long distance relationship in the fall when Jessica left for her freshman year at Penn State University and Alex left for his freshman year at Lehigh University.
“I was nervous to start dating him because I didn’t know what it would be like both at different schools.” Jessica said.
A year and a half later, Jessica and Alex were just about to spend their second Valentines Day apart when Jessica decided to surprise him.
The large bouquet was sitting behind her on her desk next to a framed picture of her and Alex as she sits down, leans back and explains, “We both had four tests the week after Valentine’s day so it didn’t make sense for him to come to Penn State or for me to go to Lehigh.”
Friday at 3:45 p.m. Jessica was on a bus headed straight for Lehigh. At the last minute she decided that it was worth it to surprise Alex for the weekend. Even though they wouldn’t be together on Valentine’s Day, it was better than nothing.
A lot of students were heading off campus to raise money for the annual Penn State IFC/Pan-Hellenic Dance Marathon, so Alex was frustrated that Jess was not making the trip to see him. The night before Alex was texting Jess upset about her decision.
“I just couldn’t understand why if no one else was going to be on campus she couldn’t come to Lehigh,” Alex said.
Jessica laughs joking about how Alex was sounding like Ronnie from the hit TV show The Jersey Shore.
“The whole time he was texting me freaking out, I wanted to scream, shut up and stop complaining, I am surprising you,” Jessica said.
One of Alex’s friends who was in on the surprise picked her up from the bus depot at 7 p.m. on Friday. Jessica was dropped off at his dorm. She took the elevator and knocked twice. She heard Alex moving toward the door.
“Right before he opened the door, I got weird butterflies in my stomach, like I was nervous,” Jessica said.
Alex opened the door and saw Jessica, after a split second of confusion, he picked her up off the ground and swung her around. This tense didn’t match the other sentences with “when.”
“Honestly, she was the last person I was expecting to see and it made my night, I was so happy,” he said.
The couple got pizza for dinner and watched a movie. They slept in late on Saturday and then studied for their exams. Saturday night Alex’s fraternity had a Valentines themed social so they spent the night out. Sunday Jessica’s bus was early so they had to end their weekend the morning before Valentines Day.
“ As fun as the weekend was, it goes fast and it makes me miss her more once her bus leaves,” Alex said.
Jessica and Alex still have two more Valentines Days to spend at separate schools, but both are optimistic they will last even if they fall under the dreaded label of a “college long-distance relationship”. On Monday Alex sent Jessica her bouquet of flowers, chocolates and a framed picture of the two of them.
Jessica reaches over and plucks a red rose from the vase and says, “On a scale of one to ten, this Valentines Day was an eleven.”